[vc_row][vc_column][vc_video link=”https://youtu.be/Z2bAuIu1Iro” align=”center” css=”.vc_custom_1592241697954{margin-top: 0px !important;border-top-width: 0px !important;padding-top: 0px !important;}”][vc_column_text]“I grew up thinking I’d be depressed my entire life. As early as 5 years of age, I hated myself” – is NOT something you expect to hear from someone who became one of the world’s leading (and Oprah fave) Positive Psychologists.
But Rob Mack, my A-MAZING guest for my latest Dr.Darria X collab, a Wharton-trained positive psychologist, leadership coach, and TV regular (Oprah, Today, GMA, Access Hollywood, and everywhere else), says he stumbled into positive psychology “just wanting to save myself”. In the process (including taking his own notes to track what worked and what didn’t for his own feelings), he learned the evidence-based tactics to improve the lives of everyone around him.
Rob dropped serious wisdom GOLD, teaching us how to “micro-meditate” (especially good for those who don’t like meditating), that “Emotion is more contagious than anything else on the planet”, how to come out of this COVID crisis stronger, and how to help your children deal with their own struggles and disappointments right now.
You’ll absolutely want to listen – this interview was a gift. I’m taking my own notes – and am implementing them myself.
I’ve included some of my favorite time-stamped moments below!
Want more of Rob? Find him on his website or Instagram, FB, Twitter (@RobMackOfficial), his book Happiness from the Inside Out, and look for his upcoming book, Joy from the Inside Out – coming out by August!
XXX,
Dr. D
Time-stamps for some of my favorite moments:
- 2:48 – I grew up thinking I’d be depressed my entire life. As early as 5 years of age, I hated myself and my life. … Eventually, I experienced thoughts of suicide every few minutes a day, every day, for at least a decade
- 9:23 – I was intentionally selfish, about just wanting to save myself
- 12:50 – Why “positive psychology” is eons beyond “Positive Thinking”
- 14:18 – How to stop “thinking yourself out of happiness”
- 16:29 –The challenge for all of us, is to be more present – and exist in a presence that’s not always obsessed with thinking things out, figuring things out…
- 17:34 – The magic of “micro-meditations” – for people who have no time – and even how that will help you sleep and stop the mind-spinning at night. (and how it includes enjoying your breath as if it were your last breath)
- 21:23 – prioritize joy. The one way to not get good – at something like meditation or peace – is by prioritizing trying to get good, You get good by trying to enjoy it, not by trying to get good.
- 23:21 – Emotion is more contagious than anything else in the planet, infectious disease, virus, anything transmitted.
- 24:52 – How to help your child/teen who is struggling right now with disappointment due to COVID changes (note – these tactics work for helping ANYONE who is struggling with anything).
- Mirroring, Normalizing, Validating, Empathizing
- And ONLY THEN – (and maybe not even in that same conversation) – do you try to positively reframe
- 29:29 – His answer to a female friend of mine who felt that she was failing across the board – work, marriage, maintaining her kids’ education, and home
- “Lazy Intelligence” – how can we get equal or better results with less time and effort.
- What is your life for?
- His system to Reverse engineer (Outsource, Delegate, Reduce, Eliminate, Automate, and Regulate is pure systems thinking GOLD)
- 34:46 – it’s not time management, It’s about energy management. Finding flow.. is about creating space, in a zone where you’re so busy enjoying life, that you’re not evaluating it. So busy appreciating it, that you’re not analysing it.
- 37:15: Happiness Island – how to build it, and what it means.
- 43:07: What wearing a rubber band on your risk and saying “No” can help you redirect your thoughts.
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